Healing from Family Rifts: Ten Steps to Finding Peace After Being Cut Off from a Family Member
I didn’t find this book. This book found me! I was sitting in the waiting room at the doctor’s office and noticed it on the bookshelf. While all the other books were placed uniformly, this one was skewed and in plain sight. Coincidental? I think not. It happened at a time in my life when I was ruminating choices I’d made concerning my estranged mom. I was wondering why we hadn’t found a path to healing our family rift. The solution seemed to be in plain sight, like the book on the shelf, but neither of us could get past a communication blockade; one that had always existed, I guess, but had never been tested.
So, when an insurmountable blockade exists in your relationship, sometimes you have to be “ok” with it. Communication can’t be forced and understanding is sometimes elusive, in which case you have to live in grace and accept that a resolution might not happen, immediately or otherwise. Basically, the book is about acceptance.
Mom and I are still estranged, but I’ve accepted it without burning the bridge, thanks in part to author, Mark Sichel’s advice. I am free.
Needless to say, I think Sichel’s book provided the best & least expensive counseling I could ever have received!
“I began to feel liberated and genuinely felt they could take the new me or leave it. So far, they’ve chosen to leave it, but I feel a sense of integrity and self-respect that I had never experienced before.”
― Mark Sichel
P.S.: The book is not overwhelming–in fact, it’s a secular, quick-read that weaves bits of memoir into its approximate 200 pages. The format is simple too, as it is based on common “12 step” programs (although Sichel organizes the content into 10 steps).